Pay What You Can in November
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
Steve Jobs’ Stanford Commencement Address
To change the World we need to lead by example. Pointing to the problems and highlighting other's inadequacies and fears only feeds them.
If there was a blank canvas and you were God what would you create?
One thing that I have struggled with in my life and I know others have as well is what I call 'transactional living'. The underlying story behind transactional living is that 'I only have worth according to what I can give or exchange with others'.
Transactional living leads you down the rescuers path because you are always looking for someone to help so that you can reinforce your own self worth. Problem is that in identifying people you need to help you often make them a victim "Oh you poor thing" goes the script "Let me help you".
You're a rescuer if
a) you are helping people who haven't asked for your help
b) you are doing something that you really don't want to do, or
c) you are doing more than 50% of the work in a relationship.
Rescuing behaviour masks a deep lack of self worth - the key being that you don't believe you are worthy of love/friendship/affection/money (yes MONEY) - hence you need to do an exchange to get it - hence transactional living.
How do I know about this? Well like I said I'm a past master at it but years of work and diligently stopping myself from stepping in has pretty much got me out of it.
The rescuing behaviour is part of the Karpman Drama triangle (Google it) - the three key roles are rescuer, victim, persecutor. The best bit about it (sic) is that even though we start playing the game by being the rescuer - the longer you play the game the more likely you are to end up playing all three roles. YES - the victim one too...
So - the alternative?
THE CIRCLE :)
We are all one.
Ubuntu is the African term
"I am because we are"
Which leads me to the 'Occupy Wall Street' protests and a conversation I had with someone where they asked "OK so what's the alternative? Occupy Wall Street then what?"
So, here's my answer - if we all did what we loved and we loved ourselves then we would have no need to live a transactional life and instead would completely and lovingly and unconditionally value ourselves. Which means not only would we have no need to buy into the fear and greed that drives the financial system and the ridiculous excesses that we have seen over the last few years in particular BUT we would also be really good at saying NO to the ridiculous way that some organisations want to treat their human resources (read 'people' if you have but a sliver of heart fibre left) AND we would trust in the essential good nature of our brothers and sisters (since we are of course all ONE - remember the CIRCLE) AND therefore we would of course bask in LOVE and the essential ABUNDANT nature of our World.
So - sorry about the rave this was supposed to be a short blog...
My point is this - I charge people quite a bit of money to Visioning and Self Mastery work. I do that so people take it seriously and don't just ask me to work with them because they are curious. BUT I know there are people who take the work seriously and don't have the money to pay.
So - let's cut to the chase - if you would like to do some work with me, for the month of November - PAY ME WHAT YOU CAN - first in best dressed (there's about 25 one hour slots left in my schedule) - email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and book a Skype or face to face session (I'm near Byron Bay).
In peace and love always.