Hold Your Space
“If you think you are beaten, you are.
If you think you dare not, you don't.
If you like to win, but think you can't,
It is almost certain you won't.
If you think you'll lose, you're lost.
For out of the World we find,
Success begins with a fellows' will -
It's all in the state of mind.
If you think you are outclassed, you are.
You've got to think high to rise,
You've got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger man or the faster man,
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can!"
Walter B. Wintle
So, let me first explain what I mean by 'Holding Space'. In the Quantum world we are all linked together by the Quantum Field that flows all around us and through us all the time. At all times we have an opportunity to both influence the field and to be influenced by the field. That is, we can be both proactive and reactive. We can be influenced by others and we can influence others.
How do we do this? How can we work with the field?
Reflect back to the notion of 'being' and the 3 worlds in which we exist - the Past, the Present and the Future.
As I discussed in the last post most of us are living a reactive life, perpetually going around the Past/Present loop. As we play out past behavioural patterns we effectively relinquish our opportunity to consciously create what we want.
To create something completely new we need to be in the Future/Present loop and it is our WILL that holds us in this loop. That is - regardless of the evidence available we choose to hold ourselves in this loop.
Holding Space is about using our WILL to hold space around a particular future possibility.
A client shared a fantastic example with me recently.
He was at a concert and about half way through the concert a couple of people behind him started making a racket and being disruptive. He turned around and confronted them and simply asked them to stop. They turned out to be two rather big fellows and his initial reaction was 'Oh shit what have I done I'm about to get the crap beaten out of me'.
But despite their initial aggressive reaction he resisted the temptation to buy into his fear and instead held space around the possibility that they were all there to enjoy the concert and have a good time.
As they threatened he simply smiled and said 'Come on guys we're all here to have a good time, let's enjoy the concert'. They relaxed, smiled back, apologised and they all enjoyed the rest of the show.
Set Intention, Strengthen Your Will, Hold Your Space.
Because the Quantum Field is not affected by time or space you can hold space for other people and for remote possibilities.
Holding Space for other people means holding energy for them around a high possibility or good way of being. A friend recently separated from his partner. Their 7 year old son was having trouble adjusting to the split and didn't want to go with his Mother.
A typical reaction in this situation would be to REACT to events and to worry about the well being of the child - to fear the worst.
That's would be holding space around a poor outcome. The alternative is to be PROACTIVE and to ask 'What's the highest possibility?' - maybe that the Mother and son get to have a heart to heart and sort things out and the child's character is strengthened by the experience.
The Father then could hold space around that outcome - focussing instead on the Mother's good qualities and the strength of character of his son. His energy then would be directed at helping rather than hindering the situation.
Do you see the difference?
To hold space around a remote possibility would mean to be clear about EXACTLY what it is you want and how it would FEEL to have it come to reality.
Holding Space then means to use your WILL to envisage the situation and then give THANKS even though it has not happened yet. In other words don't WAIT for EVIDENCE!!
Decide what you want and resonate with that possibility.
You can train yourself in this by sitting in a circle of honour http://www.acping.net/catalyser/creating-circle-honour
The next step is to let go of control which I will cover next week.
In peace and love always.