Learning is the Art of Remembering - Part 3 - Releasing Judgement
“Judgement locks the gate to
The quickest way to change the world is to accept the world exactly how it is now and the quickest way to change yourself is to accept yourself for exactly who you are right now. Sounds easy eh? But how difficult it is in reality!
I wrote in Part 2 that to find our true selves what we need to do is forget a lot of what we have been told about ourselves, who we are and how we should be so we can ‘fit in’ to mainstream society.
Releasing judgement is the crucial next step.
Consider once again the Ontological model of ‘Being’ below:-
Berceuse of the way we are hardwired we are constantly trying to make sense of the world and ‘work it all out’. That’s because we inherently disclike uncertainty – it stresses us out and sends us into obsessive worrying about what’s going to happen next.
The thing is though this process is a tautological trap that limits our possible futures. You will see if you look at the model above that if you are going around and around in the Past/Present loop then you are operating in a safe mode where you believe you know everything and have a good idea of what is right and wrong. The decisions you make – when faced with a problem in the present – are based on your past experiences and your understanding of how the world works. Because of this you are simply re-acting to events as they occur based on what has happened to you in the past.
Don’t worry you’ll recall if you’ve been reading this blog for a while that most of us are going around and around in this loop about 90 – 95 % of the time and in fact most of the 50-60,000 thoughts you will have today will be EXACTLY the same as the ones you had yesterday!
Yes we work very hard at maintaining our tenuous grip on reality by telling ourselves the same stories over and over again.
Judgement – by definition - is based on right/wrong thinking and the longer you have been going around and around in the same past/present loop the deeper ingrained will be the habits and the more blinkered will be your thinking.
Hence – on the journey to remember who you really are, once you’ve managed to forget some of the stories that have been put in your head about who you are then the next step is to release judgement in all its forms.
Easier said than done. However, awareness is the first step so if you recognise that having a fixed and narrow view of the world will limit your ability to see TRUE possibility then maybe you can rationally see the benefit of letting go of judgement.
Of what? Is the next obvious question.
YOU for starters.
Accept yourself for EXACTLY who you are. CHOOSE to love yourself unconditionally.
Next – OTHERS – pay attention to your level of judgement of others and work at eliminating any and all judgements.
Thirdly – THE WORLD – accept the world for exactly how it is now. Stop complaining and moaning about anything in the world.
So – where does this leave you?
Able to focus on the future that you want to create and with a big space for ALLOWING true possibility and unconditional love into the world. AND with a big space for ACCEPTING yourself for EXACTLY who you are.